Money Matters, Even in Dating

Do men court women these days? This has been the reoccurring theme of the conversions between me and my girls. I’m sure some do, but my most recent experiences would lead me to believe otherwise. There was once a time where men expressed their interest in women by offering to take them out on an ACTUAL date, instead of saying “I want to see you” which often translates to “come over”(insert side eye Emoji). As my ladies and I were discussing the topic, we were trying to figure out what changed. All of us are between the ages of 25 and 27, educated, and successful in our own right. The women I surround myself with are all beautiful both inside and out, and have a lot to bring to the table. Aren’t we deserving of a simple dinner?

No one is asking for guys to take us to Ruth Chris on the first date, but I think that a man should be able to do better than Fridays.  Why don’t men see the need to take women on dates to nice restaurants, or buy flowers, or make any attempt to impress her and show her that she is special anymore? Is Money the issue?  The best we could come up with is that men might be afraid that women are going to take advantage of their willingness to spend money. I have to be honest, I do know of a few females who are just “looking for a free meal,” but I can assure you that majority of us are more interested in connecting with someone who we could see in our future. After 25, we know what we want and won’t waste your time or ours if we don’t see the potential for something great to blossom between us.

So fellas, here are a few tips when it comes to dating in the early stages:

1. Invite her OUT instead of Over- If you can't take a women somewhere other than your bedroom, you don't deserve to take her anywhere.
2. When you get to the point that you are both in agreement that you should go on an outing, take the time to think of a place that she may like. It shows that you cared enough about her to plan something. This way you can have more to say than “I don’t know” when she asks, “where are we going?”
3. Don’t make her feel like a cheap date- You don’t have to break the bank, but you don’t have to take her to McDonald’s either. There are so many great deals on Groupon and living social. Take advantage of them!